The Solution

Building a better future is a straightforward process; requiring minimal effort every day to keep you on the path. All you need is an open mind, a notebook and, a pen. With these three things, nothing will stop you from obtaining the future you want.

Mistakes are the lock

What is our baggage? What are we bringing around with us every day? I recommend sitting down in a quiet room where you won’t be disturbed and letting your mind think while you observe. Don’t worry about noting anything.

Simply, observe your thoughts, what are they? Who is involved? Do this every day to gain a familiarity with your thoughts and emotions before moving on.

Journals are the key

Once you’re familiar with your thoughts and emotions, grab your notepad and write them down. List everything you think of when you’re self-reflecting. Next, to them, make a simple note of what prompts that memory. Is it a mistake you made? Something you wish you did differently? Or, is there something else? Note this extra information next to the description of the thought or emotion.

On another page, write down where you want to be in a month, six months, a year and five years. Next, write down what you need to do to achieve them goals. By looking at our futures, we can reverse engineer where we need to be and what we need to do today.

Now, we have our thoughts, emotions and, their prompts. Along with, our goals for the future. All we must do is combine them and interpret.

Look at your goals for the future, along with what you need to do to get there and compare them with your thoughts and emotions.

What are the differences? How can we change ourselves to achieve our goals? What lesson can we learn? How can we apply them to ourselves, to achieve our future goals? Now, put these observations into practice.

Piecing it all together

It’s okay to do this process once, but we’ll never see any change, and before you realise, we’ll be back being stuck in the past; unwilling to move.

To overcome this, we need to regulate this exercise. Every night for 10/15 minutes, sit down and write out all your thoughts, worries and, anything of interest for that day. Also, note what your plans are for the future. Then at the end of the week, see what lessons you can learn from the previous week. Repeat this weekly and see what happens.


By no way is this a comprehensive guide to dealing with past problems but, instead, it’s an exercise which if done correctly, will teach you about past mistakes and gives you an opportunity to correct it for the future.

Life is difficult, things don’t always go to plan, but we can try and work with our mistakes and use them to our advantage. But, we can only do this by observing our past; this exercise presents us with that opportunity.

I do this exercise every night, and so far, it has worked. After completing the exercise for three weeks, I’ve thought less about negative experiences in the past and, become more focused on my future and what I need to do to get there.

Just remember, don’t let your plant die.

If you give this exercise a go, let me know what happens on twitter.

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